It’s often been said that sexiness is all about how we view ourselves.
Many would have us believe that our sense of self-worth and attractiveness begins with the self-images and thoughts we carry inside our own heads. Are you buying that… or, could the experts have it reversed? Should the folksy truism be changed to read: ‘When it comes to a sexy, confident self-image, what’s on your head may determine the picture in your head’?
While controversial, and most definitely in juxtaposition to today’s modern ‘Zen’ self-image directives, the latter view may be a more honest depiction of what makes us tick in the self-confidence department. Real hair enthusiasts just might (and not surprisingly) subscribe to this more provocative point of view. In fact, a recent poll in ShopSmart, (a subsidiary of Consumer Report Magazine), polled their readers to find a significant and undeniable connection between hair and self-image.
Nearly half of those who participated in the survey (44%) felt that a bad hair day controlled their mood throughout the entire day, while 25% revealed that they had been known to break down and weep after a bad haircut. Clearly, the state of our hair has a very direct correlation to, and wields influence upon— the state of our lives! Now, add in the aging factor and the topic grows exponentially.
There is no doubt about it; as we grow more attached to our trademark manes, studies prove that the hair on our head is literally becoming less attached to us. With each passing year of our life, hair becomes less abundant… less resilient and most definitely less lustrous.
Here is the irony in all of this…
While Mother Nature wreaks havoc on our aging hair and hairline, our aging ego continues to grow more deeply entangled (no pun intended) with this lifelong precious attribute. Quite a conundrum!
So, what’s a gal or guy to do?
In my new ‘Fab After Forty or So’ blog series, we’ll be examining ways in which we can conquer aging-related image issues that we all struggle with a little or a lot… and win (!)— beginning with our hair. Each blog will examine new ways to appear young-er than your age, whatever that glorious number may actually be. We’ll discuss personal style strategies, as well as cosmetic, aesthetic, surgical and non-surgical approaches to dealing with the ‘age demons.’ We’ll savor the journey by posting and sharing our thoughts with each other; kindred spirits who find the never-ending quest for youthful exuberance and beauty as innate and enjoyable as those on the hunt for the perfect golf swing, or the priceless flea market find.
Do you have a specific age-related image, style, hair or beauty challenge that you’d like to see this blog series address? Bring it on! Simply leave a comment at the end of the blog with your suggestions or requests. Then, tell your friends about this series and check back often, for the next release. In my upcoming FA40OS blog, “Come Hair! Truth, Lies and Myths Debunked,” I’ll shed light on hair styling myths related to age, image and style. The truth is… there is a resurgence of joy, self-confidence and excitement out there among forty and fifty something’s, related to beauty and image. As you follow my blog series, you’ll begin to understand why.
By the way, the timing of this blog launch is meant to be ‘spot-on’ as they say. I’m kicking off this blog series just in time to help you put a plan in place for your upcoming summer or fall high-school/college reunion. (See the ad below from the ‘Calling All Swans’ reunion campaign that I developed several years back as a Marketing Executive for a Medi-Spa Network.)
I dream of you, Dear Swan, walking into that hotel ballroom and knocking their jealous little socks-off!
Why? Because you can.
And because it will feel so darn good to show ’em what you’ve really been up to (transforming into the incredible, accomplished swan that you are) for all these years.
[Author’s note: I originally published a similar version of this article for the Las Vegas Examiner in December of 2010. While the columns are still up on the Examiner site, I am broadening the audience reach and taking them out to my extended network of friends and colleagues on Linked In, Twitter and Facebook, which includes you!]
This ‘Fab After 40 or So’ blogger.’ [Circa June 2012]